Christian Life Coaching
Helping Christian women identify and heal from destructive relationships.
Christian Coaching for Women Recovering from Destructive Relationships
Many Christian women are taught how to endure hardship in relationships.
But very few are taught how to discern destructive patterns.
When destructive people are involved, endurance alone does not bring healing. It often leads to confusion, self doubt, spiritual guilt, and years spent trying to fix something that was never yours to fix.
This is where discernment becomes life changing.
I help Christian women identify destructive patterns of relating, understand what they have experienced, and begin healing so they can move forward with clarity, wisdom, and confidence.
Why I Do This Work
I am a licensed therapist turned coach with over 20 years of experience.
Over the years, I began noticing something deeply concerning.
Many of the women sitting in my office had faithfully followed what they had been taught in church about marriage, forgiveness, patience, and endurance.
Yet they were still trapped in relationships defined by:
• manipulation
• chronic blame shifting
• emotional abuse
• entitlement
• deception
• lack of empathy
These patterns were not simply “marital struggles.”
They were destructive ways of relating.
Unfortunately, there is very little church teaching that clearly explains these patterns or helps women identify them.
My work focuses on bringing biblical discernment to these dynamics so women can finally make sense of what they have been experiencing.
My passion for this work is not only professional. It is also personal.
Like many of the women I work with, I have walked through a destructive marriage and the deep confusion that can come with it.
That experience shaped my understanding of how difficult it can be to identify unhealthy patterns, especially when faith, commitment, and hope for change are involved.
Today, I combine both my professional training and personal experience to help women gain the clarity and discernment they need to move forward in wisdom.
What Coaching With Me Looks Like
Coaching is a professional relationship designed to support clarity, growth, and forward movement.
Our work together focuses on:
• identifying destructive patterns in relationships
• strengthening discernment and boundaries
• understanding what healthy relationships actually look like
• rebuilding confidence and clarity after confusing dynamics
• aligning thoughts and decisions with biblical truth
This coaching relationship is trauma informed, meaning I understand how past experiences can influence present struggles. I work to create a safe, supportive, and non judgmental space.
Coaching is not therapy and does not involve processing traumatic memories or treating trauma. If deeper therapeutic support is needed, I will gladly help you find a licensed therapist in your area.
My Approach
For over two decades, my passion has been helping people align their lives and relationships with God’s truth.
Three principles guide all of the work we do together.
Biblical Truth First
God’s Word provides the clearest guidance for understanding relationships, wisdom, and discernment.
The Bible teaches both love and discernment, both grace and truth.
Our work together will always be grounded in Scripture.
Understanding Patterns
Many women struggle because they sense something is wrong, but they cannot fully explain what they are experiencing.
Time is spent exploring relationship dynamics and identifying patterns so that confusion begins to give way to clarity.
Practical Tools for Change
Insight alone is not enough.
You will leave sessions with practical tools and strategies that help you move forward with wisdom, boundaries, and confidence.
A Note About My Faith
The Christian faith is the foundation for the counsel I offer.
I believe the Holy Bible is the inspired Word of God and the final authority for truth and living.
I believe in one eternal God existing in three persons: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
I believe Jesus Christ is the Son of God who came to save the world from sin, and that the Holy Spirit dwells within all who place their faith in Him.
I believe faith in Christ transforms our lives and shapes the way we think, relate, and live.
What Women Often Gain From Coaching
Many women come into coaching feeling confused, discouraged, or unsure of themselves after years of difficult relationship dynamics.
Over time, they often begin to experience:
• clarity about what they have been experiencing
• stronger discernment in relationships
• renewed confidence in their judgment
• healthier boundaries
• deeper understanding of God’s truth about relationships
What Others Are Saying
“The most helpful thing about coaching is having an unbiased person give feedback in my search for solutions in my day to day life. Naturally, I have blind spots in my judgment and Sunshyne helps me see what I might miss or not be willing to admit.”
Kayla M.
“I appreciate Sunshyne’s expert advice and practical suggestions to improve my thought life.”
Shannon G.
“I loved how Sunshyne always pointed us back to Jesus and helped us understand truth clearly.”
D.J.
“We end every session with prayer and I know she is praying for me throughout the week.”
M.K.
A Note About True Change
Real change ultimately comes through God’s transforming work in our lives.
“Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 1:6
Our work together will always depend on God’s wisdom, guidance, and truth.
It is a privilege to walk alongside you as you grow in clarity, strength, and discernment.
Ready to Get Started?
The first step is a free 15 minute consultation where we can briefly discuss your situation and determine if coaching would be a good fit.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long are sessions?
Sessions are approximately 50 minutes long.
Weekly sessions are typically recommended at the beginning so we can build momentum and establish helpful tools and clarity. From there, sessions can be scheduled as needed.
Are sessions confidential?
Yes. Coaching sessions are completely confidential and conducted through a secure platform.
What is a consultation?
The consultation is a short conversation where you can share a little about what you are looking for, ask questions, and determine if this coaching relationship would be helpful for you.
What is the cost?
15 minute consultation: Free
50 minute coaching session: $140